Today was kind of a mess. I’ve been so stressed out about the incident last week that I really hadn’t allowed myself to see how upset it had made me. It’s really heartbreaking to see my daughter still suffering the after-effects of trauma, and I wish I knew how to help.

Today my stomach hurt all day just thinking about it. I feel this weird mix of anger and hurt and shock and sadness. I don’t think the burglar will ever understand the effects his actions have had on our family. I know we’ll be all right, but it will take time.

I went to my son’s orchestra concert tonight, and the finale was a symphony and choir (an enormous choir, at that) doing the Hallelujah Chorus from Handel’s Messiah. That music gets to me every time. Gives me goosebumps. That was a nice way to take my mind off things.

4 Responses to Decompressing

  1. aerin says:

    I’ve always loved choral music – and the Hallelujah chorus. My high school choir would invite anyone who knew the chorus to join the choir – if that concert wasn’t on a Tuesday night (and a couple of hours away from my current home) I would definitely be there.

    I don’t know what to tell you about the stress after everything that’s happened – except that this may be one of those things that takes time. I would take time for yourself – and your family. That can be especially difficult during this season, but I would try as much as possible. It’s always made a difference for me during difficult times.

  2. Odell says:

    I hope that you, your daughter and family will get through some of the horribleness of having your house invaded and safety put at risk.

    It would be nice if as part of any plea deal or sentencing, the burglar could offer an apology to your daughter and family. I know that won’t make it go away but it might be helpful to you. I would be interested if anything like that occurs. I believe that there are some mental health specialists that read your blog. Perhaps they could offer a better opinion than me.

  3. bull says:

    I don’t know if they have it where you live, but some communities offer free counseling for the victims of crime. You might contact the police and see if they have such a program or social services that you can tap to help you through this.

  4. Your daughter ought to be proud of herself. She sensed she was in danger and she took action to avoid it and get help. The only way she could have possibly kicked more ass would have been if she had hopped out of the shower and roundhouse-kicked that guy through the wall Buffy-the-Vampire-Slayer style, and well, she’s not Buffy, so she did the best thing possible.

    I get that she may be realizing for the first time what a scary and dangerous place the world is, but I hope this has also taught her that she doesn’t have to be a victim. Here’s hoping and praying that she feels better soon.

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