This is just something I have to remind myself every so often. Those of us who are disaffected from the LDS church or have left are made to feel like there is something wrong with us, as if something in us is broken.
But it’s not us that’s broken; it’s the church. I had lunch with an exmo friend last week, and she said that she has to tell herself once in a while, “It’s not my fault Joseph Smith made it all up.” Exactly.
It is not our fault that the church isn’t true.
It is not our fault that the church has taught our families and loved ones to treat as pariahs.
It is not our fault that we can’t pretend that we believe.
What we own is our decision to acknowledge the truth and live by our conscience and our intellect. I’m totally fine with accepting the blame for that.